I was listening to one of Stefan Molyneux’s call-in shows and the topic of conversation came around (as it always does) to children and Stephan remarked offhandedly
“I really don’t understand why people have children and then hand them over to strangers to raise.”
I understand exactly why people do this. So for the benefit of Stefan Molyneux, my readers, and the whole world I will now explain it to you.
The reason people have children and then hand them over to strangers to raise is because 99% of people who have children aren’t having children for the children. They’re having children in order to gain access to a.) attention and validation, b.) control, and c.) resources without having to earn access to those things.
In this three part series I’m going to take an in-depth look at these three factors that drive you breeders to make babies you don’t care about.
Welcome to part one . . .
1. Attention and Validation
Humans are social animals. We need other people to love us and care about us. We want other people to validate our existence. This is completely normal.
Some people fulfil their need for attention and validation by being artists or writing computer software or building houses or hosting philosophy podcasts or writing websites about how having children doesn’t make you a parent or driving trucks or designing bridges or being doctors or dancing ballet. But all of these things require work. All of these things require effort. All of these things take time. All of these require competency and capability.
The 99% lack these skills. That’s why over 50% of the population of the United States falls into the parasite class.
Some people seek validation and attention by joining groups. Politics. Religion. Social. Drinking. The list goes on. Join a group of people with a similar interests and instantly find validation, attention and support.
Some people seek attention and validation by being hypochondriacs. Some people become drama queens. Some people create YouTube accounts and barf up word vomit in the comment section of philosophy podcasts. These are ways to get attention and validation that have a very low barrier to entry.
Speaking of low barrier to entry . . .
Having a child has an incredibly low barrier to entry. All you have to do is lay on your back for seven seconds while some drunk guy you brought home from the bar does his thing. Once you are pregnant the attention and validation immediately kicks in.
“Oh you’re pregnant! How wonderful!”
That’s all you’re going to hear from everybody who finds out. It’s another of the bizarre inconsistencies that allowed the State to continue to thrive.
A large number of people believe the planet Earth is overpopulated and we need to reduce the population. Upon encountering a woman who is pregnant and therefore increasing the population instead of suggesting to her that she get an abortion and stop destroying the environment they squeal with delight at the joy of another human on Earth. Then they take a swig from their plastic bottle of water which was driven across the U.S. in a truck burning fossil fuels. Because they care about the environment.
An expecting mother gets six or seven months worth of praise and attention for being pregnant.
As if no one’s ever been pregnant before.
As if no biological organism in the history of evolution has ever reproduced.
Think about it. If you tell somebody you ran one-mile in less than four minutes the average person isn’t going to care. Why? Running a four minute mile has a high barrier to entry. But if you tell the average person that you’re pregnant, a condition that has been achieved by countless billions of living organisms throughout the cosmos, the average idiot will act as if you’ve achieved something. Why? Low barrier to entry.
Once the child is born the attention and validation continues.
You can assault people with pictures of your children in real life and on the internet. Once again because the 99% are well-trained none of them will ignore your baby pictures and tell you to go fuck yourself. You can take your children into public spaces, allow them to run wild and expect other people to not only enjoy your children running wild but compliment you on how wonderful they are.
For those of you who don’t want to see all the baby photos on the Book of Faces and use Chrome you can install GetRather which has the ability to replace baby photos with photos of something you’d rather see. Like cats. Or girls. Or girls with cats.
Since I’m plugging (get it, plugging) things that make Facebook better I should mention Down To Bang. Find out which of your Facebook friends are down to have sex with you.
Quiet. . . . . Hear that? That’s femistatists all over the world screaming in outrage that such software exist. Use this app before it’s made illegal.
As a side note, even notice how many femistatists who claim to love children get so fucking offended by men being sexually interested in women. Do you femistatists actually know where children come from? Maybe you think children are magically provided by the government as part of the Obama Cradle to Grave plan that makes you cream your panties.
Important Note: Please ignore the anti-abortion message in this video. I implore as many of you as possible to get abortions. Anything that reduces the number of 99%ers is a step forward.
I also love the wording “under President Obama”. Every femistatist has a wet dream to be under Obama.
But I digress again.
Having a child is an instant, easy, and guaranteed way to get attention from other people. The validation of your worth will be almost non-stop. Over and over you will be told how wonderful it is that your are a parent. As if no one has ever been a parent before. As if you are doing any parenting.
While you will get attention for having a child you aren’t paying the slightest attention to the child. You’ve pawned her off on minimum wage workers who provide the day-to-day care of her. After all you need to get back to focusing on what’s important in your life. You.
All of this is doubly true if you are a single mother.
Not only will the idiots in your life tell you how wonderful it is that you’re raising a child by yourself but society as a whole will put you on a pedestal. As a single mother you will constantly be praised and applauded by the media, entertainment industry, and the political class. You will be regarded as a hero for raising a child without a man. Because you are a strong, independent woman who doesn’t need a man.
And your child doesn’t need a father. Or for you single male parents – your child doesn’t need a mother. Because it’s not about the child. It’s about you. It’s all about you and the unearned attention you receive.
Two fifths of single mother families are “food insecure,” one seventh use food pantries, one third spend more than half their income on housing, which is generally considered the threshold for “severe housing cost burden.”
Single-parent families are among the poorest in the nation and as such, are extremely vulnerable to homelessness. Among all homeless families, 8 out of 10 are headed by single women with children; two fifths are African Americans (43%).
Two fifths of all single mothers receive Food Stamps. Among children with single mothers, 41% get food stamps and 59% don’t.
Although two fifths of all single mothers are poor, only one tenth of all single mothers receive TANF. Though a small percentage, they represent more than 90% of all TANF families.
But Hetherington, who like Roiphe embraces changing family structures, also was honest enough to admit that divorce tends to double a child’s risk of a serious negative outcome. Specifically, she found that “twenty-five percent of youths from divorced families in comparison to 10 percent from non-divorced families did have serious social, emotional, or psychological problems.” Other research suggests that the children of never-married single parents tend to do somewhat worse than children of divorced single parents.
63% of youth suicides are from fatherless homes (US Dept. Of Health/Census) – 5 times the average.
90% of all homeless and runaway children are from fatherless homes – 32 times the average.
85% of all children who show behavior disorders come from fatherless homes – 20 times the average. (Center for Disease Control)
80% of rapists with anger problems come from fatherless homes –14 times the average. (Justice & Behavior, Vol 14, p. 403-26)
71% of all high school dropouts come from fatherless homes – 9 times the average. (National Principals Association Report)
Sexual activity. In a study of 700 adolescents, researchers found that “compared to families with two natural parents living in the home, adolescents from single-parent families have been found to engage in greater and earlier sexual activity.”
Source: Carol W. Metzler, et al. “The Social Context for Risky Sexual Behavior Among Adolescents,” Journal of Behavioral Medicine 17 (1994).
A myriad of maladies. Fatherless children are at a dramatically greater risk of drug and alcohol abuse, mental illness, suicide, poor educational performance, teen pregnancy, and criminality.
Source: U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, National Center for Health Statistics, Survey on Child Health, Washington, DC, 1993.
Drinking problems. Teenagers living in single-parent households are more likely to abuse alcohol and at an earlier age compared to children reared in two-parent households
Source: Terry E. Duncan, Susan C. Duncan and Hyman Hops, “The Effects of Family Cohesiveness and Peer Encouragement on the Development of Adolescent Alcohol Use: A Cohort-Sequential Approach to the Analysis of Longitudinal Data,” Journal of Studies on Alcohol 55 (1994).
Drug Use: “…the absence of the father in the home affects significantly the behavior of adolescents and results in the greater use of alcohol and marijuana.”
Source: Deane Scott Berman, “Risk Factors Leading to Adolescent Substance Abuse,” Adolescence 30 (1995)
Sexual abuse. A study of 156 victims of child sexual abuse found that the majority of the children came from disrupted or single-parent homes; only 31 percent of the children lived with both biological parents. Although stepfamilies make up only about 10 percent of all families, 27 percent of the abused children lived with either a stepfather or the mother’s boyfriend.
Source: Beverly Gomes-Schwartz, Jonathan Horowitz, and Albert P. Cardarelli, “Child Sexual Abuse Victims and Their Treatment,” U.S. Department of Justice, Office of Juvenile Justice and Delinquency Prevention.
Come back for part 2 in two weeks.